Can Quick Situations Lead to Longer Thinking?

by on January 17, 2016

Previous Day:
Towards the end of class
K asks: “Mr. H why do you sit at a student desk when we’re working?”
H says: “I don’t want to feel as if I have all the power.”
K: “Then why are you a teacher? That’s your job.”
H: “Does a teacher need power to teach?”
End of conversation.

Next Day:
Sitting alone in the classroom at a student workstation, a few minutes before students arrive. K comes in first, followed by H2.
K: “I don’t get it. Why aren’t you at your desk?” <Direct, accusatory voice>
H2 (sharply): “Shut up! You asked him yesterday.”
K (equally sharply, perhaps emotional): “I want to know why he does not use the teacher’s desk when he’s the teacher!!”
H2 (yelling): “It doesn’t matter. You’re being disrespectful!”
K: “Don’t-“
H (calmly): “H2, it’s ok. I can take care of myself.”
Drama ends. Everyone relaxes.
Later on I go up to K and quietly whisper –
H: “If it really bothers you, then I can do grading at the teachers desk rather than a student desk.”
– Immediately I walk away.
Perfect day of class.

Next Day:
H (to K): “do you need to go to the office today?”
K (confused): “No.”
H: “I forgot some copies.”
K: “Would you like me to go to the office?”
H: “Would you? Great. Thank you.”

Can we be in control and be able to share the control without giving up any of our control? What are the differences between power and control?

Later, I saw H2 by herself. I asked her if I could ask her a question. She said yes. What’s worse being rude or telling someone they are rude in public? We smiled.

Can a person be prepared for highly charged situations or should they just hope and pray?